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November Exercise of the Month

This is a really light little exercise, which we do on the Introductory Day, but which has a lot of information packed into it, with the potential to make a difference. When I used it to explore an exchange I had with a Call Centre operative, it became really obvious, with great clarity, that my anger doesn’t serve me at any level at all, nor does my attitude of dismissive contempt! I actually hadn’t fully realised how much I was contributing to the situation! A bit of second positioning of the operator might just serve me better. We’ll wait and see. Some of you may notice similarities with a previously posted exercise. It is the differences between them that make it interesting.

Think of a relationship, with a partner, friend, colleague, child, organisation, substance that you would like to be different.

1 Think of the unsatisfactory situation. How do you feel? This feeling is like what? Call it X.


2 Look at yourself feeling like this? What kind of animal, food, god's art, music, smell are you?


3 Now become your X. What is your relationship like with You?


4 Now place your attention on the other person involved. They are like what animal, food, god's art, music, smell?


5 As you see the both of you, what shift in you would enhance your wellbeing, and the wellbeing of those involved?


6 Is this ecological? What would you gain or lose? Do you have equally high levels of intention to match your attention, to give you commitment to be different?

I would be delighted to hear from you regarding your experiences of working with this model. Do email me on admin@nlpand.co.uk

All the best

Fran Burgess
Director of Training