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April Exercise of the Month Provided by Dave Alloway

Guide, enable your explorer to anchor a safe and friendly place e.g., invite explorer to think of place they would rather be if they weren't here, and give them time to fully access the sense of being there again. Once resourced, start the exercise.

 

Think of something that you have been holding on to for quite some time, and that you would like to let go of. Could you let go of it?  If you could let go of it, would you? Put that somewhere it can rest for a while.	Allow them time to think: you calibrate   Use falling intonation as an embedded command. Wait for response Wait for response. If they say “No”, delay this exercise until you have thoroughly checked the ecology of their outcome. If they say “Yes”, then ask them to
Now, create a representation of yourself, on a piece of paper, letting go of something that you are really proud/relieved/delighted/etc., to have let go of. Take that paper image of that you that let go of something; where in the room is “You – Letting – Go”?. Where do you need to be in relation to that You – Letting – Go?	Wait for your explorer to indicate where in the room it is, and let them place it there
From here, what do you notice that had to be present in order for that you to let go?     And what else?   Who are you that knows that? What is your name? Where do you need to be in relation to [name]?	Go to that place and stand near your explorer. If they say that they don’t want to move, or “don’t know”, gently suggest that they go for a mooch, they’ll settle somewhere. Point from where  they are standing to the place where the paper is.  Record Explorer’s words.   Repeat this stage as many times as your explorer finds useful information (3-5 locations seems right for most). When they have gathered enough, move on to stage 4
Knowing what you know as [name], bring all that [remind them of their words] with you as you return to join [the next name]  How does knowing all that [remind them of their words] alter what you know here about that You – Letting – Go? And what else?	Now you lead your explorer back through each name and location, in sequence from end to beginning, each time repeating the words. Walk them back to the next place in sequence. Repeat this for each name and place in the sequence until you are back at the first name and location (as at the start of stage 3).
Think of that thing that you had been holding on to for quite some time [from point 1].  What has changed as you think of it now?  Now, how surprised will you be when you realise that you have let go of it completely?	Wait for your explorer to let you know, probably non-verbally, that they have thought enough. Embed the command “Now you have let go of it completely”, and wait, watch, listen, and calibrate. Congratulate them as appropriate, and affirm any changes

N.B. If, at any time, your explorer feels unsafe, use the safety anchor and take them to a neutral space in the room. Check with them what happened, and do something different. E.g., allow your Explorer to gather some mentors before returning to the process.

Dave Alloway
DepthFour